Bonita Grief Counseling
Losing someone you cared about can be hard to accept, probably harder for some than it is for others. Every loss makes you struggle with grief. It comes with a swirl of emotions, including pain, anger, regret, hopelessness, and guilt.
Grief also affects people in different ways. The danger is that not everyone can manage their grieving thoughts and emotions in ways that won’t be detrimental to their lives. Even those who seem to hold it all together may end up depressed or suddenly making awful life decisions. Some even attempting suicide in worse cases.
That is why at New Horizon Counseling Center, our professional grief counselors commit to creating a safe, supportive space where people suffering from a loss can healthily deal with grief. We guarantee that our Bonita grief counseling services are available for people of all ages and with varying intensities of grief.
Widowers whose long-time spouse recently died can find their grief overwhelming.
Even if your feeling of loss stems from a failed relationship, your grief can be immense.
Regardless of your specific situation, our grief counselors can provide you with the necessary support and guidance to help you move forward.
Call New Horizon Counseling Center at (619) 603-0845 for your Free Initial Consultation with our Bonita Grief Counseling & Coaching specialists!
How Grief Impacts Your Life
Grief is characterized by how you react or respond to any form of loss that you experience. And although the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) are generally accepted as true, not everyone will go through all of them. Some may only experience two stages, and for others who go through all five, each stage can manifest differently for different people and would not exactly occur in the abovementioned order.
Those in denial don’t necessarily refuse to believe a loved one’s death in an outright way. Their denial may be seen in their refusal to let someone else sit on their belated loved one’s favorite spot on the couch. Or perhaps they still refuse to clean out their closets or still talk about them in the present tense, implying they’re still around and will just come back later.
If a person is angry following a loss, the anger may be self-directed due to believing that they didn’t do enough before their loved one passed. Some may be angry because they felt that their love one left them all alone.
Bargaining is the stage where a person typically appeals to a higher power in an attempt to bring back their loved one. Thoughts such as “I will never shout at him/her again if she lives” or something similar will be entertained. It can also be through doing good deeds in the hopes that their guilt will stop.
And if a person enters depression, feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and exhaustion will be magnified. Others will openly show signs of depression, while some could still appeal jolly in front of other people, making it incredibly important for emotional support to be enough and consistent.
1. Instrumental grieving – This is one of the two main styles of how people grieve. Those going through this type of grieving tend to focus on other projects or problem-solving tasks to attempt to forget or overcome their pain. They may pour more hours at work and distract themselves with other projects when they get home.
They don’t express grief in an emotional way and instead channel those feelings and thoughts into doing other things. They may work on projects that have a personal connection to their lost loved one (e.g., foundations, scholarship funds, art galleries, etc.) or something else entirely. Some will even skip the constant crying but would often talk about the person they lost.
2. Intuitive grieving – People who grieve in an intuitive way will typically mirror what they’re feeling with their actual reactions. They would cry, shout, and do everything to actually feel and let their emotions out. They would often find help in exploring and overcoming these feelings by talking to someone, may it be in therapy, support groups, or simply confiding to a friend or relative. Journaling and internal thinking processes also help.
Regardless of how you grieve, however, our Bonita grief counseling experts at New Horizon Counseling Center can help you ease the process. We will be with you in all the ups and downs, ready to provide the emotional support and necessary advice that you need to avoid the life-altering negative impacts of grief.
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Everyone who lost someone goes through grieving. And although there’s no one right way to grieve and move forward after a loss, there is a way to healthily deal with your thoughts and emotions following a loved one’s death.
If you or someone you know is going through a hard time after losing someone important, please don’t hesitate to come and talk to us. One of our Bonita, CA grief counseling experts will be your personal confidant who will ensure that although we can’t magically wipe your pain and other feelings away, we can help you manage throughout your time of suffering.
Let yourself grieve in a healthy manner. And let us help you do it in ways that secure your emotional, mental, and physical wellbeing.
Call New Horizon Counseling Center at (619) 603-0845 for your Free Consultation with our Bonita Grief Counseling & Coaching expert!